This is one of my favorite articles written by my horse trainer, Tom Simmons. This is what every horse needs before work together can begin... Also note that this article has been slightly re-written and more information can also be found at: http://tomsimmonsstables2008.blogspot.com/2008/06/peace-zone.html The Peace Zone by Tom Simmons | |
I was born with the passion for horses. It was not until I had the good fortune to meet a true horseman did I begin to learn how to understand them and make my horse experience a full one. I hope to pass on some truths I have learned in the ongoing process of living and working with horses.
Friday, March 25, 2011
The Peace Zone by Tom Simmons
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Marianne's lesson from Tom
![]() |
Marianne riding her beloved Criollo Mise |
In her book, Crying with Cockroaches Argentina to New York with two horses, Marianne wrote of her problems with American horse Toto and how Tom Simmons addressed them. She writes:
"Tom was and expert with equines and strongly believed that they should be outside in their natural habitat as much as possible and allowed to be horses. He was well-known in the area, as well as in California, for his direct and intuitive approach with these animals.
"Toto wants to be the leader," he said, "and as long as you allow him to be that, you'll have these problems and outbursts."
He told me that Toto did not get enough leadership from me and that I hadn't yet established my authority over him. I told him how I was more a friend to the horses than a disciplinarian but that I recognized the importance of being in control.
He also reckoned that while we rested at Annette's for the five days, the daily alfalfa and sweet feed combination could have made him particularly hyper.
He took Toto in a ring for a bit of training and to get him to become more submissive without hurting him. Afterwards, Toto was like putty in my hands. I took him on the leading rope and walked with him. When I stopped, he stopped, when I retreated, he did the same. You could see that he was now respecting me as the boss. I had a feeling Toto would always have his dominant personality, and I would not have wanted to break his spirit, but at least it was clearer to him now as to who was in charge.
Tom said that Toto needed to feel safe with me and that he needed a lot of reassurance when something frightened him. I tried to apply all the tips and advice and the improvement was noticeable immediately."
![]() |
Fred Rojo, Marianne, Nancy Rojo, Tom Simmons & Camanchi For more information on TATA Challenge: http://www.tatachallenge.com/ |
Crying with Cockroaches
Monday, February 21, 2011
One Woman's Journey
Being without power for a few days gives rise to thought. Oh my...what's that? Memory (as a recently read author wrote) are capsules of time that make up one's life. I reason that I write so as to recall more clearly some of my capsules in case disease gobbles them or they grow thin and erode.
So... while we were living in North Carolina, we got a cryptic phone message on the recorder that led to meeting an extraordinary woman. Just luck for us that our paths crossed. I guess she could say the same.
Meet Marianne Du Toit:
In early February, 2004, I was out driving my horse on the farm when my husband Fred came outside and insisted I listen to an unusual plea left on our message phone. It seemed a woman traveling with two horses was in need and had gotten our number from a Saddlebred Horse directory. We tried to call her back on her cell phone, but reception being pretty spotty in our rural area, didn't succeed. Our friend and neighbor Tom Simmons, who is a notable horse trainer, was told of the call and he suggested we just go and try and find her. The message said she was 4 or 5 miles north of Roxboro on Highway 49. Off we went and somehow drove right to where she had her two horses tied to a tree. The young lady, Marianne Du Toit was sitting under the porch of a hospitable homeowner who allowed her to rest there while she tried to find accommodations for herself and her horses. It was a cold day with snow and ice covering the landscape.
In the ensuing minutes, she related her odyssey on horseback. Born in South Africa and an Irish citizen, who 19 months earlier began a ride starting in Buenos Aires, Argentina. She had ridden alone the length of South America, Central America, and then had to fly past Mexico (without her horses) because she could not obtain permission to pass through. She began her last American leg in Alabama in December with American horses and was on her way to her final destination of New York City, hopefully in time to ride in St. Patrick's Day parade in mid-March.
Her journey, called TATA (Travels Across the Americas) Challenge is benefiting an Equestrian Center for Children with Disability that is to be built outside of Dublin, Ireland. http://www.tatachallenge.com/ She had sponsorship from DHL shipping company and unlimited phone use from Alltel Company, and generous help along the way from the people she has encountered along her route. She spent almost three days on our farm while she had to obtain new tack and write in her journal. Marianne said that traveling the secondary roads gives wonderful opportunity to see the real America and meet it's people.
It is strange how just the right assistance can come at the right time because Marianne had trouble with one of her horses before she reached Roxboro. Her horse Toto spooked and bolted through the woods while being led. It was pretty scary but all were unharmed except for Marianne's saddle, which broke in two requiring new equipment.
Tom and I went back to the farm to get the horse trailer to bring Marianne and her two horses back to the farm to lay over before her next leg of the journey. Next day, Tom gave the errant horse a training session that put him more under Marianne's direction to prevent future outbursts. With some rest, training and a new saddle, Marianne began her journey again moving north into Virginia. I put word out among my internet carriage driving friends and some stepped up to offer their farms as layover on her intended route.
I'd like to say that this 34 year old horsewoman and world traveler is an inspiration to all that meet her. It is a comfort to know that she binds us all together in our human condition with her stories of all the unique people she has met along the way. I felt a part of her journey and she gave me an opportunity to share and spread her good will among men and women.
I finished her book Crying with Cockroaches and was struck with just how much guts this gal had to strike out on such an adventure. Of all the people who shared in her journey, she said the most loving and generous were the very poorest. At one point, she slept with several family members on a mattress and felt safer than anywhere. Here's to you Marianne! I hope our paths will cross again, but if not...I will always admire you and your humanity.
For more information on TATA Challenge see website:
http://www.tatachallenge.com/
Next: an excerpt from Marianne's book Crying with Cockroaches on what Tom did for her horse problem.
Book can be purchased from above link at Amazon
So... while we were living in North Carolina, we got a cryptic phone message on the recorder that led to meeting an extraordinary woman. Just luck for us that our paths crossed. I guess she could say the same.
Meet Marianne Du Toit:
In early February, 2004, I was out driving my horse on the farm when my husband Fred came outside and insisted I listen to an unusual plea left on our message phone. It seemed a woman traveling with two horses was in need and had gotten our number from a Saddlebred Horse directory. We tried to call her back on her cell phone, but reception being pretty spotty in our rural area, didn't succeed. Our friend and neighbor Tom Simmons, who is a notable horse trainer, was told of the call and he suggested we just go and try and find her. The message said she was 4 or 5 miles north of Roxboro on Highway 49. Off we went and somehow drove right to where she had her two horses tied to a tree. The young lady, Marianne Du Toit was sitting under the porch of a hospitable homeowner who allowed her to rest there while she tried to find accommodations for herself and her horses. It was a cold day with snow and ice covering the landscape.
![]() |
snow and ice on the farm in February, 2004 |
Her journey, called TATA (Travels Across the Americas) Challenge is benefiting an Equestrian Center for Children with Disability that is to be built outside of Dublin, Ireland. http://www.tatachallenge.com/ She had sponsorship from DHL shipping company and unlimited phone use from Alltel Company, and generous help along the way from the people she has encountered along her route. She spent almost three days on our farm while she had to obtain new tack and write in her journal. Marianne said that traveling the secondary roads gives wonderful opportunity to see the real America and meet it's people.
It is strange how just the right assistance can come at the right time because Marianne had trouble with one of her horses before she reached Roxboro. Her horse Toto spooked and bolted through the woods while being led. It was pretty scary but all were unharmed except for Marianne's saddle, which broke in two requiring new equipment.
Tom and I went back to the farm to get the horse trailer to bring Marianne and her two horses back to the farm to lay over before her next leg of the journey. Next day, Tom gave the errant horse a training session that put him more under Marianne's direction to prevent future outbursts. With some rest, training and a new saddle, Marianne began her journey again moving north into Virginia. I put word out among my internet carriage driving friends and some stepped up to offer their farms as layover on her intended route.
I'd like to say that this 34 year old horsewoman and world traveler is an inspiration to all that meet her. It is a comfort to know that she binds us all together in our human condition with her stories of all the unique people she has met along the way. I felt a part of her journey and she gave me an opportunity to share and spread her good will among men and women.
I finished her book Crying with Cockroaches and was struck with just how much guts this gal had to strike out on such an adventure. Of all the people who shared in her journey, she said the most loving and generous were the very poorest. At one point, she slept with several family members on a mattress and felt safer than anywhere. Here's to you Marianne! I hope our paths will cross again, but if not...I will always admire you and your humanity.
![]() |
Tom Simmons checking new saddle with Marianne |
![]() |
Marianne riding Comanchi leading Toto into Virginia |
http://www.tatachallenge.com/
Next: an excerpt from Marianne's book Crying with Cockroaches on what Tom did for her horse problem.
Book can be purchased from above link at Amazon
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Life after competition
My favorite view in the world |
If one lives long enough, works and plays hard enough, most will experience OA (Osteoarthritis). I have that variety also. Horse folk know how to power through the pain and get on with their horse activities. RA is different as it is an autoimmune disease that not only targets joints but internal organs as well. Treatment can involve chemo therapy drugs to curtail erosion and deformity that can be crippling in many cases. I am one of the lucky ones that respond well to treatment and can function pretty well. I do require a few life altering changes that are necessary for a good life. Plenty of rest, no stress and quality food is important. The unfortunate part is I can no longer ignore my body and power through body pain. The saying “no pain, no gain” does not apply to me anymore.
After a few years of non-competition, I have finally come to contentment that combined driving is a past achievement for me. There are indeed other ways to drive one’s horse and still achieve some necessary goals if one is so oriented. I have just completed an open end goal that has taken me nearly 2 years to achieve. The American Driving Society’s Hours to Drive program is a great way to achieve personal goals as well as having a log to reflect on a horse’s conditioning progress. Having a goal, or purpose is so important to me and the Hours to Drive program is a great way to have fun, see progress, and be rewarded for achieving a milestone.
![]() |
cruising with LH Winfield Scott |
Sunday, December 5, 2010
What does this have to do with horses?
I watched a video this morning of a lecture from a professor, Randy Pausch, that was the best advice I have ever heard. You can see it yourself at:
Dying 47-year-old professor gives exuberant 'Last Lecture'. [VIDEO]
It moved me to send to my 20 year old new to college grandson with the stipulation he watch it. I also sent the link to a good friend who loves to live and learn, and to another good friend who has a young daughter that will benefit from the advice.
It is about how to fulfil one's childhood dreams. We all have them....or should. Randy said some things that I have already discovered in my life about fulfilling one's dreams. My dreams were not earth shattering, or will make mankind or the earth a better place; but then...maybe just passing on what I have learned is enough.
My parents and my mentors did their job well. They cared about me; and I, in turn, care about you. Here are a few of the quotes that came out of Randy's lecture that had particular impact.
"Brick walls are there for a reason: they let us prove how badly we want things."
"The best gift an educator can give is to be self-reflective."
"It is pretty easy to appear smart if you are parroting smart people."
"It is about leading your life...if you lead your life the right way...the Karma will take care of itself."
"When you are pissed off and angry with people, you just haven't given them enough time to surprise and impress you."
"When it comes to men: ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do."
"Brick walls let us show our dedication. They are there to separate us from those who really don't want to achieve their childhood dreams."
So...what has this got to do with horses? It is a "head-fake".....see the video for an explanation
Dying 47-year-old professor gives exuberant 'Last Lecture'. [VIDEO]
It moved me to send to my 20 year old new to college grandson with the stipulation he watch it. I also sent the link to a good friend who loves to live and learn, and to another good friend who has a young daughter that will benefit from the advice.
It is about how to fulfil one's childhood dreams. We all have them....or should. Randy said some things that I have already discovered in my life about fulfilling one's dreams. My dreams were not earth shattering, or will make mankind or the earth a better place; but then...maybe just passing on what I have learned is enough.
My parents and my mentors did their job well. They cared about me; and I, in turn, care about you. Here are a few of the quotes that came out of Randy's lecture that had particular impact.
"Brick walls are there for a reason: they let us prove how badly we want things."
"The best gift an educator can give is to be self-reflective."
"It is pretty easy to appear smart if you are parroting smart people."
"It is about leading your life...if you lead your life the right way...the Karma will take care of itself."
"When you are pissed off and angry with people, you just haven't given them enough time to surprise and impress you."
"When it comes to men: ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do."

So...what has this got to do with horses? It is a "head-fake".....see the video for an explanation
Friday, October 29, 2010
Never judge a book by its cover...
I am a bit proud of myself for having a moment of "openness" and allowing a different protocol to take place regarding my horse's dental care. In past, I have been a strong proponent of using only veterinarians with specialty in equine dentistry to take care of my horses. I was suspect of "lay" folk having enough training, experience and knowledge of the horse to do an adequate evaluation and work.
Yesterday, I was introduced to a man whose passion is teeth. He came recommended by my farrier, whom I trust, so I decided to have the man come visit and work on my horses since I missed my annual spring dental work this year.
So here comes this big teddy bear of a cowboy from Idaho who travels the western states working on any kind of large animal but mostly horses. Quiet and unassuming, looking you square in the eye, and as relaxed as if he had all the time in the world to be right where he was.
Here is what impressed me...his horsemanship. Now granted, my horses are well-trained thanks to Tom Simmons...but; one can still distinguish good horsemanship by how the horse responds to the handler. I stood back and watched how he caught, introduced himself to the horse, put on the full mouth speculum, and began an investigation of the mouth with all the cooperation of the horse one would want. I was told by my farrier that this happens with all the horses he works. Then, I realized that my original thinking may have been flawed because my veterinarian equine dentists insist the horse be given sedation. That is well and fine in some cases but I see now, it is not necessary in every case. The reason for sedation is for the horse to endure a procedure without a reaction that could cause injury to the vet or technician in the process. Ok...we all want to be safe but it got me to thinking about veterinarians in general. All of the vets I have used have been excellent in helping me with problems, but could I classify them horsemen or horsewomen? No...I don't think they have many courses in school about horse handling...without restraint or the use of drugs. The vets I have known are great scientists, diagnosticians, and they practice with medications.
Do they know the horse like the horse is in nature? Not many. I watched this cowboy with his passion for teeth take each horse and perform a thorough exam with full cooperation and trust from the horse.
Since my horses have had annual work for most of their lives, there was nothing for the cowboy to do except give me a good report that they are fine to eat their way through winter. Good! I asked to be put on the list for spring.
Now I know that yesterday's exam did not require any work, but I don't doubt that if anything were needed, it could be achieved without sedation. I was reminded of a story Tom Simmons told me of being at a kurring where approved horses were branded. He was handling a Dutch Harness Horse; who, when it came time for branding with a hot iron, stood perfectly still and allowed the obviously painful procedure simply by having trust in the handler. So I deduce that a horse, if conveyed by a leader that "all is well" will endure pain or discomfort simply on trust.
I call this equine dentist a "cowboy" because that's what he looks like. He is so much more. The horses see him as a leader and a friend; and, go along with him and he with them. Horsemanship...so easy yet so hard for most of us.
So I guess the moral of my story is not to judge a person by how he may look. Anyone can dress the part and even talk the part. But the horse isn't fooled and doesn't lie. The horse knows who to follow willingly.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
learning Horsemanship
Another Tom Simmons clinic is on the horizon for me to put together at Noble Beasts Ranch in Grass Valley. You won't find a fancy website full of illusion, and you won't get any tools for illusion at one of Tom's clinics either. All you can get is the truth as a horseman of almost 60 years can give from his lifetime experience of horses. What a deal! Here is a person who does not have the illusion of being anything more than someone who loves working with a horse's mind to facilitate our goals with our horses.
Personally, I have taken clinic from many big names in my competitive sport, so I have a fair idea of what is being presented out there; and, I have met a few good horsemen and women. What is lacking though, for the beginner as well as the more advanced participant, is a real understanding of what makes a horse tick and how to get on the horse's side of how things should be asked for and given. Technique and formula is not where it is at. It is only when one can focus on the horse first, that amazing things can happen. Then, you can begin the other stuff. Nothing comes before it is time.
So, here I sit, with a different attitude than the beginning of my journey. I give the opportunity to listen and learn from Tom, but know now that the individuals who come to these clinics are at different stages of learning and will receive only what they are capable of retaining at this particular time. The mind will take it in and put it in the subconscious, and it may or may not come out again until something in their work with their horse jogs the memory to bring it out to try and use. We may not ever remember who gave us the thought, and may even take it as our own.....but does that really matter who from, or how it came?
To all the great horsemen and women who have affected better horse communication through their passion....Thanks
Personally, I have taken clinic from many big names in my competitive sport, so I have a fair idea of what is being presented out there; and, I have met a few good horsemen and women. What is lacking though, for the beginner as well as the more advanced participant, is a real understanding of what makes a horse tick and how to get on the horse's side of how things should be asked for and given. Technique and formula is not where it is at. It is only when one can focus on the horse first, that amazing things can happen. Then, you can begin the other stuff. Nothing comes before it is time.
So, here I sit, with a different attitude than the beginning of my journey. I give the opportunity to listen and learn from Tom, but know now that the individuals who come to these clinics are at different stages of learning and will receive only what they are capable of retaining at this particular time. The mind will take it in and put it in the subconscious, and it may or may not come out again until something in their work with their horse jogs the memory to bring it out to try and use. We may not ever remember who gave us the thought, and may even take it as our own.....but does that really matter who from, or how it came?
To all the great horsemen and women who have affected better horse communication through their passion....Thanks
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)